Tinder Tips: how to use Tinder

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Tinder is a gift. Use it well and it allows you to easily set up 2 dates a week. And if a girl’s going on a date with you, she’s clearly interested.

Even if it’s just one date a week and you only get along with half of them, you can still meet two wonderful girls a month. This adds up quickly. This could even eliminate the need to actively go out to meet woman (if you don’t enjoy it).

Now the catch, I did say if you use it well. And that’s what this Tinder Tips is about.

I’m going to publish a series called Tinder Tips where I talk about the best practices for the best results with Tinder. It will only contain field tested information that has also been discussed with other dating coaches, naturals and even beautiful women (some from Tinder yes).

* Results are guaranteed if you follow these tips. Let’s get started.
In this article I’ll give you a general overview of how to use Tinder and how to set up a bad-ass account.

Pictures first

Tinder is visual. I’ll repeat this. TINDER IS VISUAL.

+90% of the time people swipe without looking further than the first picture. If this picture isn’t okay your others won’t be seen, neither will your description be. If you want this to work you’ll need to have some good pictures, period. Now don’t get me wrong. You don’t have to look like a model and you don’t need professional pictures (both help though).

You just need decent pics in high quality that display you in a good way.

Tinder picture tips:

- All pics should be of high quality. A good Iphone picture or better. Ask somebody else to take your pictures, selfies usually aren’t good. Always ask feedback from others when choosing pictures. (If you can afford it a photo shoot might be worth it. You’ll have good pictures which are always nice, reusable on other platforms and they will definitely improve your Tinder and online game.)

- Please try to show some positive emotion. Look like a happy and satisfied human being.

- Your first picture should clearly show your face and shouldn’t contain other people. If she has to guess who you are she’ll assume you’re the ugliest person in the picture.

- Find your good angle. Everybody has a better angle. Take some selfies and find out yours. Try a straight shot and then one from 4 angles in front of you (left-up, left down, right up…). Ask some different opinions on this. You only have to do this once, it’s well worth your time. If you go for that photo shoot ask the photographer what your angle is.

- After your first picture include 3 or more others. I suggest one or more by yourself. One or two with another buddy and one bigger group photo. Including friends shows her that you have them.

- Pictures that show cool activities or a nice part of your lifestyle are a win too. Things like working out, being in front of an audience, holding a microphone, wearing a cool suit or costume and so on spark curiosity. Just don’t come over too serious or try hard.

- If you’re in awesome shape you can include your body in your pics. Just make it look like it’s a random picture somebody took. No bathroom selfies, even with a six-pack. If you have a cute pet you can also include it. Remember though, if it's your first pic make sure your face is clearly visible. The same goes with nice possessions. Just don’t look like you’re bragging. An innocent smile can often times dismantle arrogance.

- Keep pictures congruent with your age and personality. A gaming night with friends on a dusty old sofa is okay when you’re 18, not when you’re 40. And the more your pictures convey the real you the better you’ll connect with the women you’ll meet.

- If you’re not sure about a picture leave it out. Get a better one. Two good pictures are better than two good ones and two bad ones. Good or gone.

- Last tip, use your common sense. If a picture you have goes against everything I've written but get's you the most matches, go with that one...

Tinder picture mistakes:

- Low quality or straight up bad pictures.

- Not showing your face clearly, especially the first picture.

- Taking a group picture as your first one.

- Overly goofy pictures. Laughing can be good, but girls don’t want to see the inside of your throat.

- Pictures where you’re dirty, overly tired, injured (yes I’ve seen guys use these) or where you look bored and so on.

- Pictures with other women. This doesn’t help, even if it’s your sister. They can only do harm so keep those for Facebook. It’s okay in a bigger group setting of course.

* These picture tips will get you further than 90% of most guys on Tinder. Next stop.

Watch our FREE video with the 10 biggest mistakes guys make on Tinder and when texting women.


Your description will not save you (or even be read) if your pictures weren’t good enough. If she reads it she's interested. So the most important part is to not mess things up with it.

Tinder description tips:

- In general shorter is better. No need for fluff, it can only do harm. Less is more.

- If you’re +26 write complete sentences and briefly give some basic info. Younger men can write a bit less and be more mysterious.

- You can be playful if it fits your personality but again don’t be too goofy. It won’t do you any good.

- Put in you best traits. If you’re tall put it in your description. Other things you can include are a cool job, a nice lifestyle, a degree, the fact that you live healthy and so on. Subtly try to convey that you’re ambitious or passionate about things. If you love pushing yourself in the gym or on a track, put it in there. If you have an attractive nationality for where you are add this in too.

- Leave out less attractive traits like being short, depressed or having skin problems.

- Qualify girls. If you dislike a certain (female) behavior, say it loud and clear. This will filter those women out and will attract the other ones. It shows girls that you have standards. Also say it when you like particular things. (Example: I love crop tops on girls and I briefly mention this in my description. If you love curls or girls that read you can include this.)

- If you’re travelling, mention it. It adds a sense of urgency and adventure.

- If you’re really too lazy to put in 5 minutes of mental effort in a good description, keep it empty. No description is better than a bad one.

- Ask feedback on your description from others, especially from Tinder dates themselves. Give them some honest feedback too.

* The combination of this description with the picture part from above will set you before 95% of men on Tinder, easily. Just remember pictures are king.

Time management

I’m giving you one more time management tip. If you’re a pretty busy person or don’t like spending time on Tinder, there’s an efficient way to use this app. Some of my friends do this.

At the moment Tinder provides you with 50 likes and 1 super like every 12 hours. What you can do is literally right swipe every girl on there until Tinder tells you you’re out of likes. Then give a girl your final super like. When you match during swiping press continue and keep going. When you’re out of likes check out your matches. When you have a match you dislike immediately remove this person and 12 hours later do the same thing again.

This method gives the best return on investment for your time. You only spend time looking at Tinder profiles that liked you back and you batch the process of liking girls and afterwards removing them if you want. You can even batch responding to girls on Tinder.

Now don’t get me wrong. If you enjoy being on Tinder while in school, on the toilet or when you’re in bed at night, do you thing. But this is the most time efficient way

* Disclaimer: The girls on Tinder look quite good where I live. If you're area is filled with less attractive girls on Tinder this might not work out, but it's worth a try.

Final words

Okay. You’ve got a solid Tinder profile now and you should be getting quite a lot of matches with the above things in place. Congrats, you did half of the work. Now you need to meet these pretty ladies.

The next article will be specifically on how to start a conversation so you can actually get on that date. So stay tuned!
→ My article on how to start a conversation on Tinder is now published. Check it out!

All questions are welcome in the comments.
Thank you for reading and until next time!

Terry Travis

Watch our FREE video with the 10 biggest mistakes guys make on Tinder and when texting women.


Comments 6

Tue, 19 Jan 2016 17:16


I really love working in a team where I can learn from every single other member, and this article is a great example!
I've always been doing Tinder casually, but this article makes me want to go all out.
Especially the time management section makes this app look a lot more efficient than I originally thought it was.

Great job!

Tue, 19 Jan 2016 17:25


Good to see an article about online game :ok_hand:

Tue, 19 Jan 2016 22:29

Willem V.

I changed a picture because I realised reading this I was being overly goofy! :D

Thu, 21 Jan 2016 14:46

ass player

great tips!

i'm going to implement them immediately

Mon, 18 Jul 2016 17:27
Sat, 31 Dec 2016 08:22

Paula Grant

I am looking for someone who has a positive attitude towards life. Someone who's a foodie like me, and loves a good James Bond marathon. No games here please, been there, done that.

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